I have certainly not forgotten about you, and regularly pop in to catch up on some threads....I'm not sure this is allowed by the new rules here, but I wanted to show you all a piece of life outside the 'box'. I remember those first hours, days, weeks and months of agonizing heartache...yet there is hope and fantastic opportunities for those who have faith !!
Cinders! What a wonderful surprise! How are the children doing? I hope you are doing well and definitely enjoying life. We miss you!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I have missed you toooooo !!!! It all seems so long ago and so far behind me now. I never knew I could ever feel this strong and confident again ! Life can truly make some unexpected turns, can't it ?!
Kids are doing so well, they are a happy bunch, and have settled into our separated life, really well, I am so proud of them !!!
I have now out of politeness greated the H's girlfriend, and feel fine about it, as long as she doesn't push for more. But I have a feeling she is desparate to become my best friend and that is something I truly don't seek.
I still have my own boundaries and have found that setting those was never about them, but about ME and what I needed to move along...it was some of the best advice I got here at this board !!
Thank you so much for dropping me a line and please feel feel free to read my blog if you'd like to catch up with me outside of this board. However I do plan to check in here again once in a while...there is still so much pain...
Take care Snodderly, Love, Cinders x
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Cinders, You learned your lessons well. Boundaries are all about you and what you feel comfortable with. If you do not feel comfortable being "friends" w/the ow, then don't. It's okay to say hello, etc., but nothing says you have to be best pals. I think you are handling your situation quite well.
When we come here, none of us know what the future holds; and yet, as we move forward, life changes for each of us in ways that we never imagined. We all thought that our spouses would be w/us till do us part, but look at all of us.....we are evolving into people who are rediscovering what life is all about. Yes, my friend, you have gotten stronger, more content and confident. Life is about what you want and if someone tags along, that is fine too, but the most important thing to remember....it's all about you and you live your life.
I'm very happy to read that the children are doing well. You should be very proud of them and that should include you as well.
Cinder, you have done very well. Please come back to visit again. You are a success story in your own right. Hugs to you and your family!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You know how much your post means to me... I came here very broken and utterly sad. I am now a happy person, with a will to live my life again !!! All the special people at this board helped me get there and I will remain ever so thankful to them ! It was babysteps all the way, and one day you notice you've taken great leaps !!! ;-)
Thanks again, and I hope all is well with you too... ??!! xxxx
Love, Cinders xx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
