lol I love Dan and Elizabeth! That is hilarious. I was an only child and had a whole host of characters aptly named, 'Pretend Friends' who I played with. Our sons are very close in age - mine was born 9/04. I'm super sad too, but I hear you on the trust thing. It must be very serious for you having had your H leave after your son was born. I know our troubles increased then, but I never thought my H would ditch us. If he came back tomorrow I wouldn't trust him. Especially with all the verbal abuse stuff. If he didn't work on it, I'd have to put my head in the oven instead of try to raise two kids in that situation.
I"m staying internally strong even if not dark. Going dark for a couple days, more of a pullback, was helpful this week when H acted really angry. I am prepared for the worse - and I don't know what would be worse anymore, divorce or reconsiling with Mr. Anger. I'm holding strong that even though he has a list of reasons why he left and should never come back, so do I. I've suffered for years and it will not work ever again with him unless he faces that.
How did you cope all those years having had a H that left so early in your baby's life?
