I love OT's response. I must be getting grouchy in my old age - I think I would have said "What makes you think its ok to use your ex-wife's things?" Then again, I have practiced "That doesn't work for me" over and over, so it's on the tip of my tongue (or the end of my typing fingers) when I get a nonsense request or demand.
Hon, I know that you are not looking for that small flicker of hope that he might someday come to his senses and rush back begging forgiveness and another chance - so, you may just have to spell out your new boundaries to him in very simple language. Use small words so he doesn't get confused.
Make a list of what you are, and what you are NOT, willing to put up with.
