I know how hard it is to be without them tonight and my heart goes out to you.
One of the things I have finally gotten pretty good at is "reframing" things that are said/written. Perhaps he really thinks he's giving you a much needed break. Whenever I "knee-jerk" to a comment, I stop and put in in a different light. It has taken me awhile to be really good at this and it not only helps me mentally, but I have seen an improvement in my communication with H.
