OH hey, Bond! I remember you as Stuck. HOw long did it take? ARe you getting any affection back? it's reassuring to know I'm not alone in the hell of a long time to physical connection road. I've been doing something similar, but not wanting to pressure H at the same time. I try to keep distance, but when it feels natural, not pursuing, occasionally I try inching my way over. I'm up to sitting on the couch on opposite sides from being in separate rooms. I get hugs that are stronger, longer, etc now but I still am the instigator which I struggle with. I don't want to be.
Even prebomb, my H was extremely not affectionate. To be fair, he's a cerebral guy, almost a genius, and a computer techie. But the down side is I suffered quietly for years feeling neglected. Now I regret not working on it, but he's quite anxious in the physical realm so I don't want him to feel worse.
