Thanks pup... my point was mainly to describe how you CAN do NC with children involved.. it works that way AFTER divorce... and he's already moved out, so it makes it a LOT easier than it was for me.. I was living in the same home with my WS.

It IS doable... COST? Sure, but you offload that to H, its HIS visitation.. why should YOU pay for it? He wants to see his kids while he's cheating, its going to cost him because you have to hire someone to handle the pick up and drop off...

if he doens't like the cost... all he has to do is...

You guessed it... STOP CHEATING.