Last night I was cooking, thinking about our situation, and trying to mentally prepare myself to go dark. There was a knock on my door - it was the wife. This caught me off guard. After the way things went yesterday, I did not expect to hear from her at all. She stayed for about an hour. She was very upset about some things that happened at work - to the point of crying and saying she's tired (mentally). I got the impression she is about to have a meltdown.
Today, we exchanged text messages (she initiated). She said she was feeling low and wished she would have called me during her lunch break. I asked what was wrong and from here it was a series of "you're so nice, and I suck" statements. It seems like she is starting to crack under the pressure a guilty conscious. I don't know if this is a good or bad thing. Any thoughts?
BTW. She told me that she was angry yesterday (when we had our R talk) because she discovered that I used my commission check to pay off my credit card and did not offer to pay on hers (the one she used to pay her attorney). She said after thinking about it, she understood why I would not feel responsible to pay her debt. I think this may be why I felt her backing off lately. Under normal circumstances, anything involving money (it was a large payment) would have been discussed prior.
Also, and this was a big surprise, she told me that up until a few days ago, she thought she might possibly be pregnant. She said this is why she was stalling the divorce.
One more thing. I have been reconsidering the idea of moving back home, with or without her consent (this was previously suggested by: robx and mrbond). I went back and studied the situation DDogs (link below). I was encouraged at the beginning of this thread but it doesn't look like a happy ending.
Since I am not very good at going dark, I thought changing the dynamic instead might be worth a try. Dumb idea? I am sure I will get whacked in the head by the proverbial 2x4's
