thanks for replying. God this is hard, and it feels like hell, I can't stand this tension. It's a very hard situation to accept. I went and saw a L today, spoke with a an old friend who's a L in Texas and he told me to go ahead and file so that I could retain my dignity. She is pushing to make an appt with a mediator. But we are suddenly talking out things a lot, not sure if this matters. I've been trying the 180 and GAL but I suck at them so far.