I know it sounds mean mb28, but WHATEVER problem your H had about his sister when he called you should have just been dropped.
You have to look at his actions. He's CHEATING. He's hurting YOU, he's hurting his CHILDREN... and he calls YOU WANTING sympathy for his sister.
Well, HE is not showing YOU ANY... so HE gets none... he WILL throw a TANTRUM.
This is a DOUBLE STANDARD. He WANTS YOU to feel sorry for him. He wants you to think HE"s the sorry victim and to cater to HIS needs... but he wont budge an INCH to end his affair...
It's a dobule standard ... you got to cut him off... if his sister was just diagnosed with cancer... well, forgive me, tha'ts a shame, but your HUSBAND is having an AFFAIR and he is showing NO sympathy for THAT.. he wont even ADMIT it... but HE expects YOU to sympathize with HIM?
Sorry, no game there...
The NO CONTACT deal is just that... NONE. IF he wants sympathy, he can call someone ELSE... his siste'rs probemls are not YOUR emergencies... he abused the call and you let him...
You NEED to recognize what an emergency is... and his emergency yesterday was that HE wanted YOUR sympathy... THAT was what he called for.. and worse, you gave it to him... you are DAMAGING your MARRIAGE when you do this... you hurt your CHILDREN when you do this... gotta stop it... COLD.
I know its hard, I know it hurts ,and I know you look like the bad guy, but you just have to keep saying - UNTIL the AFFAIR is OVER the GRAVY TRAIN ENDS HERE... you get ZERO emotional input from me while YOU are not committed to me...
