!Help! Need Advice and encouragement!

[stark648]

WOW! I'm so glad you posted! I am really having a hard time today. W posted stuff on her Facebook about how her boyfriend is "so freakin' fine and all mine", etc.
Then later she posted about how "Jesus died for all of us" and she's not afraid to "take center stage for Jesus"--like her relationship with God is supposed to be okay!
I started a reply comment about: How can you commit adultery, live w/the guy, destroy your family, etc. --trying to justify it b/c you're "in love/lust" and claim to be a Christian. This is another one of those 'seems like a good idea at the time' mistakes--the BIGGEST one you ever made-sad part is you may not realize it for quite a while.

I didn't post it, though.

My daughters are getting baptized Sunday-and surprisingly, she says she's coming. They accepted the Lord a short time back, and this is the public profession of it, you know... S
Wife will probably stay tight with her sister and parents(parents don't approve of her actions, lately, but are trying to keep loving contact with her). BUT this is the first time she has been to church since affair, etc. I don't have false hopes she will have a change of heart, or anything, but I don't want to post that comment and make a mess for my daughters. I was also just hurt and angry. My mmom says it won't last with the guy, but how long?? They were close friends for the last few years.
My daughters are trying to get me to shop for a new Mama. My 15yr old says she can "see the pain in my eyes'. I've been doing a little socializing--(no dates). Young pretty girl from work keeps wanting me to go out to Hooters for drinks w/her. I might go for the social outing, but not further. (My girls like her 'cause she has four-wheelers) My buddy's telling me typical guy advice involving her and me back at her apt. That doesn't seem wise, however, it's flattering to have flirting and attention when I feel discarded and unattractive. I have been getting clothes, working on appearance, etc. It is really hard to get detached, when she is at the house w/kids lots of afternoons while I am at work... or shows up in AM to take a daughter to school. I know they need to see her, but she avoids me and doesn't even text or speak, if possible.
I did buy myself and the girls a playstation 3 blue-ray to replace our broken dvd player. D15 is ecstatic about that. Wife will be angry, I'm sure, as money is tight with her and the boyfriend. She's always spent too much, and in just the last few weeks, I have more funds since she has had to buy (or charge on her cards) her own dresses, purses, jewelry, Vict Secret, Starbucks, etc. but then tells the girls she doesn't have money for Dairy Queen fast food for them. This makes them angry with her---
Anyways, I would greatly appreciate any advice, as it seems like it's really over, but the pain is excruciating sometimes, and even if I file, I don't think the pain will go. What else can I do??