Going dark will not work because in the context that I am doing it I am still using it as a ploy to get her back. The going dark should be about me trying to find who I am. I assume this is the right answer.
Is that the answer you want to give ?
Then give it....
Don't assume anything....
Eric, this answer has to be for you, not me.
If that is what you feel, then you are correct...
That WOULD have been my answer as well, then again, I don't live your life.
I am seeing some of the insecurities that you have spoken of.
That is why this work HAS to be for you, not the marriage.
The understanding of that work, is coming to you.
If you live and learn for you, and take the time to understand the Monster labeled MLC, then these answers will come to you when you need them.
I would really hate for you to have a chance at a positive interaction down the road, then for you to excuse yourself, and come here to post , so that you can respond to each question.
You are doing really well with your growth.....
I just want this to become a part of you, and not because someone else said so....
Right now, I see you as a hamster on a wheel, and you are spinning in circles, looking for that elusive piece of cheese....
When you get off the wheel, it will be there wating for you to stop....
