The break-up wasn't all my fault... what will it take to wake him up to that fact? I left him, and he gladly helped me out the door...
I meant, what does it take for a guy to become aware of the fact that his wife left him because he hurt her? What makes him wonder, "did I do something wrong?", instead of assuming "she's got issues." OK, I had my issues, like not being keen on sleeping with other guys and taking pics of said activities for H's viewing pleasure and feeling hurt that my H wanted the freedom to f*** whoever he wanted. After all, that's evidence of self-confidence issues- if I really loved him, I would get pleasure from seeing him pleased- however he wanted. (I'll knock the sarcasm off now.)
But seriously- he knew I was hurt, I told him that. What he wanted was more important. I know there's no real answer to my question above, it comes from within, and I'm just frustrated and disappointed that he can't, or won't, see that. I don't know that he'll ever be ready. Based on my interactions with H, I'm placing the blame for that on his d@mn ego. I hope that "sexual variety" was worth it to him, it was more important than me- he literally can have the f***ing variety he wants now...
