Quote: I do believe that now is the time to really detach and if you will go dark (or as dark as I can go).
I am not trying to be a pessamist here but chances are that this will not work. Why? Cause quite frankly she is already emotionally detached.
quote]This anger....healthy and natural. Do I think some of it is self-pity? Yes.....you are stronger than this. You will be nice...because you are strong. You will continue to to work on yourself and eventually not be a second class husband....YOU WILL BECOME A FIRST CLASS MAN![/quote]
The anger for me will pass. For her, I am not sure. She has bottle up a lot over 16 years and since she is one that does not like conflict she probably will not deal with her anger for a very while. The self pity is probably guilt. I do feel guilty of mistakes and things that I did in the M. I am getting better at forgiving myself but I have to say that a big part of me feels like I lost the women of my dreams. I know that the D is not final but the emotions are gone. On a positive note, I do feel that if she could get out her anger that she may reconsider but with the OM it may be tough. This would be the only reason that I would confront her about OM. I think puppy dog suggest that you confront. I almost feel like I have nothing else to loose. I am going to go dark for a few weeks and see what happens. If that does not work then I suspect that I will confront.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
