The Good Soil Of Love

[Concerned_Listener]

Matilda, Jak, and DB Friends,
My W is expecting to lose one of her PT jobs this year. She's talking proactively about addressing the problem. She's been at this job for two years, and has gained experience and confidence. She sent me an email this week, asking for an idea of what our budget would look like. This is new behavior. I'm looking forward to more financial partnership on weathering her likely unemployment.

I do wonder how physical intimacy can be cultivated. I'm not able to imagine what that would be like. My reaction is to want to procrastinate and avoid the topic. She's going to have to partner with me to move forward. If she goes back to being reactive because things aren't perfect, we'll continue to be stalled.

She's also partnering with me on planning our next trip to Puerto Rico. I'm willing to take more time off (ten days), and lower the quality of our hotel rooms to lower that expense. We may have to delay the trip if she becomes unemployed.

Things aren't perfect, but we get back on track after a difficult day. She had a meltdown when the store didn't have turkey breast for our cooking job, and I got thighs instead and didn't tell her about the substitution. She feared the customer would be upset about the substitution.

Her dance friend avoids coming into the house and me, as if he's possibly afraid of me. My W says that I chased him away. My W agrees that he is someone who needs to have limits set on him. I have no doubts that limits needed to be set. My mistake was not speaking-up sooner.

The Hustle formation team will start in mid-March.

Our health insurance will cover massage therapy if my W is a patient at my chiropractor's office, and it is done thru their on-site massage therapist. She loves massage therapy, but hasn't gone due to the expense, as insurance typically doesn't cover it. She would only have to pay a copay. It wouldn't hurt for her to see a chiropractor every now and then too.

CL