Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Sandi, I completely agree and I have been thinking the same thing. It is a fine line and it's difficult to know when to stick with my boundaries and when to offer an olive branch.

I thought about my reasons for not giving her certain information. I truly don't think it's because I'm being stubborn or trying to make her pay for anything. I guess I'm trying to protect myself and not give her any ammunition right now. I'm concerned she will hold onto things and bring them up down the road.

However, when is it time to start trying to rebuild some trust here? One of us is going to have to take a leap of faith eventually. Do I wait for her or do I make the move? Very difficult decision indeed. Don't want to seem like I caved in to her. She has asked for a few small kitchen items (dishes, etc.). I could care less about giving her these items, she can have them. Do I take the first step (olive branch) and surprise her by giving these small items back to her? I know this seems really silly but I'm trying to make sure if I begin to take some small steps that they are the right steps. I will keep my boundaries on the big items.

Maybe for right now I wait a while longer until W and I agree on house and car?...or, I make a good faith move first with these small items in an effort to make her feel less anger towards me. What I mean by that is she might start to believe that I am not trying to be controlling of the entire situation.

Anyone have any thoughts?