For Sandi2

[elscotto]

Maynard, I guess its our egos only that would make this satisfying but I think the eventual marriage rate to the affair partner is pretty low and the survival rate of those marriages are abysmally low following for a lot of reasons. I mean think about it--suppose you got divorced tomorrow and got married the following day. Isn't that what an affair turned marriage really is? The compunding problems that affair partners have is that their relationship was spawned through lies, deception, betrayal etc... The affair partners KNOW what the other is capable of in terms of honesty and commitment or lack thereof. Further, the chemicals present in the brain will diminish over time and that "adorable" thing the affair partner does may no longer be adorable and instead is annoying.

The affair partner is now being called upon to make the sacrifice worthwhile. Thats a LOT of responsibility and depending on the level of sacrifice made it could be a HUGE set of shoes to step into and make happen.

My ego wants to see my ex on my front step--as my mother says it will happen for sure. I don't know time will tell I suppose. One of my buddy's wife had an affair while he was in the navy and he found out about it and lived with it and they supposedly made things work. He said the problem was there was not a single day after that where he looked at his wife and didn't wonder something about what went on, thought about it etc...He said all he did was waste 8 years of his like until he got the divorce that he should have gotten 8 years earlier. Sobering thought.