Personally, I would have nothing to do with her if I thought she was still seeing another person. And I would let her know that I thought it was disrespectful to continue living in the house while she did so.
Bill - thanks again. Confronting her about her disrespect would not be a wise choice in my opinion right now. I was the one who looked at the phone bill. I suspect that it is an EA right now. If I confront I would be showing the controlling jealous behavior of the past. Having said this, I do believe that now is the time to really detach and if you will go dark (or as dark as I can go). I think I need to spend some time trying to figure out what I really want and what is in the best interest for me and my kids.
You know over the past few weeks/months it has become very apparent to me that she has emotionally detached. I really no longer have a marriage. She is having all of her emotional needs met by someone else. Once I figure out what I really want I think it is time to call it for what it is. I still do hold out hope but I need to be realistic in that it will take TWO to save this. Right now, she is going thru her own issues. I need to protect myself first and foremost. This is a sad day for me as I think I coming to grips with the situation that I am dealing with. Right now, I do not think that we can be friends. Too much damage by both of us.
Am I ready to completely call it a day - NO but I have to tell you that I am getting close. Not because I do not love her but more because I love myself.
She has made me feel like a second class husband. She has not accepted any responsiblity for any of this. She is working to position herself and I am the one trying to be nice. I do not think that I can be nice anymore. I just really fed up with her. Sorry more anger. I feel that I have grown at least in the area of making decisions when I am angry. I will take some time to think this thru but right now I feel that I may need to call it a day. My only regret is that part of me feel like I am giving up - but I cannot make her fall in love with me again - not when she is so closed off and connected to another.
I guess this is part of the acceptance phase of grieving.
Everyone - thank you for being here for me. I will forever be grateful for everyone words and perspective.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
