IT takes SECONDS to write happy birthday.. and to be honest, he may have been WITH OW when he typed it... is that your idea of a happy birthday wish? It's quite perverse I think...
Email only is my vote too... and have someone screen the email.
The PROBELM with the phone and the kids is, he's gonna use ANY excuse to call... hangnail, etc...
I would HIRE a sitter to sit with him and the kids and have HER call you if there is need... THAT way you dont have to hear from him at all
