Hi GIMA! Be strong, buddy, because you will be ok. I know we all will be.
Just a comment on the legal stuff, in my sitch my H thought he could transfer the house to my name and I wouldn't want anything else because he'd done me such a big favor. Right.
Long after he'd transfered the house into my name I let him know what my L said. Without any legal S paper filed it was still a marital asset. He'd done nothing to change our legal sitch. And, moreover, my L would not let me be fine with that arrangement. He would demand a full appraisal of the property, a comparison with the value of his retirement I would be eligible for at the time of retirement (assuming growth in the value), and oh yes, half the value of the farm his Dad transferred to him because it was transfered during our m and was therefore, also a marital asset. It would also include half the value of everything else we owned such as his truck, the tools in the garage, and his motorcycle, even.
He turned a little white when I told him all this.
Sometimes being nice just doesn't work.
Let the L represent you. It is sad for you and the kids. But it is your job to look out for them by getting what you are entitled to.
