Don't meant to hijack but Aver, maybe this could be a good 180 for you (in another sense of the word - not for your M but doing things differently in general?) Someone might propose it to you anyway. I agree dinner might be a bit much, so how about just a glass or wine or coffee? That way you're also committed to just an hour (where bowling could be a lot longer...)
Something doing things - anything - different can be a lot of fun. Example - i'm not a huge jewelry person and usually wear very small stuff, if anything. Went to one of those jewelry party/brunches on Sunday and bought this crazy wild fun - loud -necklace. Perhaps part of my new look as I embark upon this next chapter? A friend was there - also going through D - and she said 'you need to buy things that 'pop' more' as part of your "D Makeover". Sound advice. Just small things to challenge yourself in different ways can be good...doing anything different, new skill, hobby, purchase, whatever. nothing to small to be a tad empowering.
Can't wait to hear updates on dates/progress! hugs, hhh
