Mystik, if your H wants to reconcile, then why don't he move out of OW's now? Because of a lease? She can get a roommate.
I suggest that you read threads in the Piecing subforum. You will get a sense of the process, and how delicate it is.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.