You may or may not know that I have remarried. In June of 2008 I married a wondeful, loving, caring woman who has three children of her own. Though we have been married over a year and a half, we have lived separately all this time, all because I promised my then 14 year old that his parents divorce would not cause him to lose his home or the opportunity to graduate from HIS high school with HIS friends.
It's been tough not being able to begin our married life together. We have sacrificed much, and we knew we would be going in to the wedding. But we both know that my first priority when my marriage fell apart was to doing everything in my power to make sure that my two boys emerged from this as whole and intact as possible. While you can never know for sure, I would like to think that I have accomplished that.
Will it be hard? Sure it will.
Will it be worth it? Absolutely and in every conceivable way.
Bworl, I'm going to say it, in alot of your posts on these forums, you have a big chip on your shoulder about what's the right thing to do and what's the wrong thing to do.
You remarried in 2008, you didn't bust any divorce and to top it all off you are not living with your new wife all to protect and shield your children. Are you serious? You didn't learn anything from your first marriage? Your current wife may be telling you that she supportive of what you're trying to do but I'm pretty sure she didn't get married to you so that she could live apart from you. Do you really believe that this doesn't bother her? You've admitted yourself that it's been tough not to begin your married life together and that you've both sacrificed much - is this the solid ground you want to build your marriage on?
Set an example for your children about what a true married relationship is about otherwise you're going to engrain your actions into their heads about how a relationship works, they're going to believe this is normal regardless of what you tell them. I understand shielding them from pain but you aren't teaching them anything by your current actions by living apart from your new wife.
How long do you think your new wife is going to put up with this?
Or let me guess, she's different, she's not like other women and she won't remember all of this several years from now.
