Sexual abuse history can obviously complicate a desire to be physically dominated.
That's an excuse that's convenient for you to exuse the difficulties yo have in your relationship. There is a very big difference between a man who is sexually confident and loves you - than a misogynst, dysfunctional abuser.
It also demonstrates that you don't understand the difference between being sexually dominant in a mature, mutually signficant sexual relationship and being "dominant" in a whip me, beat me, love me context. Huge difference my friend, huge diference - and all women, abused or not, can tell the difference.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.