Quote: Do you suppose that your moods could be affecting his?
Absolutely! It works the other way around, doesn't it?
Quote: I felt like I was walking on egg shells around my H when he first started coming back...
I can relate to this Alaska, but from some time ago. CJ and I have been actively piecing for 8 months now.
Quote: Mix it up a little. Have you ever written him an erotic letter? Why not try it? Tell him how much you miss his touch and describe the wink, wink, nudge, nudge you'd like to share.
Closest has been some semi-naughty e-mails. DID write QUITE an erotic letter in our early days which I showed him several ago (more or less to show him that we DID have it goin' on...after he'd rewritten history )
Not sure if this would work (I KNOW it would work for ME!) or just be perceived as more pressure.
Same thing for:
Quote: Arrange to meet him on a weekend evening at a hotel room...get there first, be in bed and be in sexy attire...
Several of may most memorable rejections have come when I'm dressed to play...not exactly encouraging. I'm also not sure what the pressure to "perform" would do...not much good. Our hotel room during our Easter getaway had a hot tub, strategically placed mirrors....Nada.
Quote: think back to when you were first wink, wink, nudge, nudging....did you have a special place, a secret rondez-vous? Is there a place that has special memories for the two of you that you could get away to together?
Um, unless I get my parents to go out of town and take back my old bedroom....not really!!!
But seriously, AKG, I DO appreciate the thoughts and the general notion of shaking things up, I really do!!!
Quote: When he said he hadn't been working on the paper for over an hour, maybe he just was lonely and wanting attention. Next time he goes for a walk...join him! Hold his hand. Make it romantic, not suspicious!
Yes I DID get the feeling he was lonely...as for joining him on his walk...wellll...there's that history there. When he WAS doing the "suspcious" walking and bike riding, I'd offer to go along frequently....OBVIOUSLY I was not welcome...he told me so. This time he just walked up ready to go and BURR! It's cold out there!
Quote: And about the kisses at the party...has he ever been affectionate in public? Was this just him being "shy" in what he perceived as a public place? Could you come right out and tell him that it hurt your feelings a bit and you were wondering what he was thinking or feeling when you tried to steal a few smooches?
Good question...No, he's never been overtly affectionate in public...but he's always said he wanted ME to be more so...sit nearer him, have physical contact, etc.
As for asking him outright... I think that's the right thing to do. As he may well have been taken aback? Who knows??
