"CJ is always getting on me for NOT telling him right away when things bother me. But I don’t think he sees that he does the very same thing at times!!"
Okay, this stood out for me, because I'm wondering if something had transpired recently between you and CJ in which he felt slighted and perhaps he's been stewing over it ever since (all without your knowledge).
And now he is hitting you with some passive-aggressive mud balls.
Sometimes the reason for ill feelings isn't even clear to the person experiencing them, initially.
