... I can answer for a lot of men by responding to that by saying, yeah, he's HOT as long as he guesses correctly what you want. I've heard many stories about women rejecting a guy just because he kissed wrong, without her giving him a chance to get it right. Yup, you can tell by just the first kiss, etc. Which results in the guy kissing new girls until he finds the one who likes his way of kissing, and SHE says he's hot because he just "knew" what she wanted. Or he tries a different way of kissing with the next girl, and SHE says he's hot because he "knew" what she wanted. ...
This kind of goes along with what I see too, like how can a woman (or man) be so outgoing, talkative, and aggressive socially, and then not want to talk about what they want sexually and clam up so tight?
And then since I haven't been able to have good sex which allows me to actually feel 'connected', how am I supposed to be able to sense and read what is wanted? I always found I can read, and sense what my W wants so much better _after_ we have ML...
