Just let the IC go... you are NOT interested remember?
I can tell you how it went.
It was one hour, she didn't break any ground. She collected his patient history, got a sense of what he's looking for, gave him some obvious advice and sent him home... it was one session, it is NOT going to mean anything... That's what happened. Trust me, no miracle breakthroughs happened today for him.
My biggest concern is that you won't even let him leave a phone message, you PICK up the PHONE... that's a serious dependency there...
The problem if that doesnt get dealt with is that YOU will become ILL over the next few months...
MIGRAINES NECK and BACK PAIN SHAKY HANDS INSOMNIA EXHAUSTION STOMACHE PAIN JOINT PAIN EXHAUSTION
These symptoms are for anxiety... abandoned spouses who don't effectively combat their affairs and let their affairs consume their lives get emotionally ill followed by physically ill...
We have all been there.. we DON'T want this to happen to you... you NEED to learn how to ignore your phone.. for the sake of YOUR health and that of your children, you need to get control of yourself ok?
My advice is to give your phone to someone else to hold onto... to take your calls... if there is NO ONE around, TURN IT OFF...
Puppy and I disagree here, but I am seeing signs of it alraedy in your posts that you are headed in this direction.
NO CONTACT is the way to fight that... getting OUT of that cycle and the drama... and you ARE in the drama if you wait for his phone calls and let him bait you into a fight... you want that DRAMA to be JUST HIM and OW.. NOT the THREE of you... so YOU need to step OUT of it...
Keep the phone off Keep busy Keep away from your home Bypass arguments by bypassing communication NO ARGUING Accept NO excuses from him.. just EXIT the convos Secure an independent life from him until he comes to his senses...
Addicts will DRAW people into their drama if they CAN... and its NOT a healthy lifestyle at all.. you LIKLEY have FELT some of it when you talk to him... he IS in a stressful world he's created for himself... you DON'T want to be part of that... I KNOW you want to know what's going on, but you wont' find it out from him. As puppy pointed out, the only thing you are going to get from him is TENSION.. tha'ts all HE has to give right now... That's all addicts have to share with their loved ones is their misery... don't become part of it... EVERY call is an invitation to be part of it...
