* It’s over. There is no hope of saving the marriage. * I never loved you. I only married you because… * It’s not about <affair partner> it’s about wanting out. * Even if he or she was not part of the picture there would be no hope. * You made me do this, it’s your fault. * Nothing you can do can change my mind. * I could never feel anything for you again. * She/he is my soulmate.
Other myths – these are dangerous to believe:
* The children will be fine, they get over these things. * I’ll give you everything if you agree to a quick divorce * I’ll take everything and you’ll be destitute if you don’t give me a quick divorce * The affair is over and we’re just friends. * The affair is over and we can still work together
Wow, my H has said almost every single one of these things to me.
Allen and Puppy thank you so much for all the support you guys have been giving me. And I agree, I'm being very co-dependent and am becoming addicted with checking his phone records. And Allen your right, I don't have a lot of will power to do the NC with my phone. I have done better then in the past, but as you can see, it never lasts more then a day or two.
H just texted me "I hope you had a good birthday" I didn't respond. However, I'm dying to find out how his IC went.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
