RNM, read the chapter in DR on goals. Here's a thread to work on them if you haven't already seen it:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1939171#Post1939171

Oh, and the Bitches book might be different than what you're expecting...

me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4
current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp
.: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.