She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Gardener]

Awoken,
You handled the situation, yourself and your W very strongly. Kudos for that.

She said she is especially mad that I would make a decision like moving back into the master bedroom on my own. I simply said that I thought it was a much less consequential decision to make on my own than her seeking divorce and the destruction of our family.

Good.

She then broached the subject of accusing me of turning the kids against her. I simply pointed out that I had done what I could to support her relationship with the kids, because it was in their best interest, BUT it had been very difficult because she had been drunk in front of them, had been verbally abusive to them, and screamed at them several times that she didn't want to be a mother any more.

Very good.

Again, she seemed to blame her drinking on me, and was frustrated that I had not gone to al-anon many years sooner. sigh.

Denial and chutzpah. What a shame. Not a good sign.

You are strong.
Stay strong. Especially now.