Your last post makes a lot of sense (and many of the other ones too but let me stay on topic for now...)
Anyhow, you give me too much credit with the annulment question...I mean YES I do have reasons for asking, but not as many as you thought...oh well.
Unlike robx, my recent experience with the Church is that it's harder to get an annulment than it was before b/c of the appearance of it being bought as he out and out suggests. To be clear to all, we are NOT referring to legal annulments here, but to religious ones;i.e., the Church annulments, & there are huge differences. Legal annulments vary from state to state.
Assume for the sake of argument K4, that you DO get the Church's annulment...do you worry that it means your d's are bastards? After all, if the marriage was never valid, they were born out of wedlock...
You've made references to some sort of "secret weapon" you have for the annulment and since I don't know what that is, and no one else does, we can't say much on that...But Unlike Robx, I do not believe you can bribe your way around the Catholic church in America these days and besides, if I know you at all K4, you are not the "bribe the church" type of guy...
Anyhow, my goal in the question was really aimed at both possibilities-they DO give you one, which leads me to wonder how you frame it for your d's? Or they say "NO", and then what do you do?
If it were me, JUST ME and not saying this fits all...I would not pursue the annulment b/c IF it worked, my fears would center around having my children characterized as being conceived in anything but love, (i.e., I do not want them to be considered "bastards") and 2nd, if the Church said NO, I guess I wouldn't care very much b/c I'd live my life knowing I gave it my all, and that God knows this. And I'd date again if I felt like it, but I'd sure be careful...with my heart and my children's...and if the Church says there was no marriage is that good for the d's b/c then they'll think "a real m" would not have had problems? I mean I don't know exactly why you are doing this...what's the goal? IS it that it'll answer a question for you internally OR is it that you want permission to date, or both?
Guess I'm saying "be careful what you wish for" and really think it out. But your fatigue with the sitch is human and understandable. We get it k4, we do. (I bet God gets it too, btw.)
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