Ok, you guys, I am kind of crying now. Mins after I sent the email, H called me and said he was "blown away by my tone and nasty email" Said he thought it was ridiculous to expect payment over 2 years, do I know the debt he has, etc etc? Then said he did want a good amount of furniture since I'm going tit for tat and that maybe he should get a L too. I stayed calm and neutral, but at end got a tad choken up b.c I felt so attacked.
What did I do that is so wrong here? I feel like he gets a bit emotionally abusive at times.. he then said, well that since I have a L maybe he should get one too and we should really have it out. That is ridiculous after what I thought was an amicable lunch. It's not my problem that he has debts still to pay..I gave this to him as a gift. He said I have no appreciation for the debt he is in! Come on, after I paid rent and stuff for 2+ years.
I don't, don't want this to get ugly fighting over furniture and stuff. He was like 'well I can bring out itemized receipts of everything I bought...' we both agreed last time we didn't want anything from each other and he would pay me back, but he preferred to do it in a way that felt comfortable to him.
He said my email was unhuman and business-like. I said I thought it was a normal request so we're both on the same page. He then said 'well since you're running this show why don't you just fill out all the paperwork and tell me what i need to sign'
I stayed quiet...I was at a loss for words. I wasn't outright crying but he could tell I was a bit choked up. Then he was like 'what's your deal? re-read your email!' it's not that i even need it 100% in writing b/c i trust him, but I'd prefer we agree on a 2yr payment vs 10 years, which he seemed to think was unreasonable.
Did I do the wrong thing here? I don't want to get L's involved or go down any such path..I really do not. I don't want this to be drawn out and draining and I'm looking at the emotional cost as much as the financial cost. He's said in the past he wants nothing from me - even said this over lunch - including furniture, and now he's saying he does.
Ugh. But I guess his nastiness just shows another side of him that I do not like. Why does he have to be so mean at this point when I don't think I've done anything wrong? His beef was about the tuition part of the email only, not the favor I asked the L to answer for him.
