Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

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Ruined, from the way you describe your H in your thread, YES it makes TOTAL sense for you to make him jealous! Is he rather masculine or macho at all?

I am just not going to be able to date b/c
1) it will make me cry
2)I might freak out and get attached
3)in my case, it would hurt the outcome more than help it
(just have my gut telling me this)

Hi NM,

H isn't macho/meathead sort. He is masculine, sorta dude-y, if that makes sense. Down to earth, what you see is what you get, traditional values.

If you aren't ready to date, def. don't. If you know that dating will upset you and be counter-productive, then you have the right answer if front of you. You know what is best for you, your sitch, and the best course of action.

My decision to start dating is a radical 180 for me. When single, didn't casually date, didn't have casual sex, just remained alone. Had a few loooong relationships, and plenty of celibacy in between each.

Feel like it would be beneficial and healthy for me right now to meet new people, try different things, break out of my comfort zone. I know that I am in no condition to be in a R w/anyone. But don't see anything wrong w/pushing myself forward, so long as I don't hurt anyone else, or myself. If my M is to end, I will date in the future, might as well get some practice now.

The last 6 months have shredded my self-confidence, self-esteem, belief in myself. Some positive male attention can only reinforce that just b/c H doesn't want me doesn't mean that nobody else will either. Maybe it will have the added benefit of reminding H that I'm a good woman and he'd be foolish to lose me. If it doesn't, it sure will help me remember that.