At a min. I need to really GAL and take my balls back cause right now I am operating completely out of fear and she can smell. If she gonna file then F – it go ahead.
This is the start of a good mindset.
GAL, PMA, and all that stuff doesn't mean ignore the reality staring you in the face.
It also does not mean that you need to pretend everything is fine, when it's not.
If you've got a spouse who is actively turning to another, everything is NOT fine, and there's no reason to try to make interactions between the two of you appear to be "all fine."
Personally, I would have nothing to do with her if I thought she was still seeing another person. And I would let her know that I thought it was disrespectful to continue living in the house while she did so.
That would be taking back your balls, to a certain extent.
That doesn't mean you have to become surly. In fact, the opposite should be the case. Having cleared the air with your TRUE feelings, you are free make yourself the priority.
You getting to the bottom of you, you finding out how to be a respected Dad - these things are important work. And they will help you to become a man you can feel good about.
Don't let this consume you. I understand how it can. I offer you my perspective, having been through this mess, that the end result you most fear will NOT destroy you, even though it feels like it will now.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
