I wonder why I didn't take better care of myself (eating lousy, not working out as much) when she was here?
I think it is easy to do after M b/c you have her then. You didn't have to work to win her like before you were M.
That is one reason it is important that you realize your changes are not to "win" her back. If they are and you did get her back....you would fall into your old patterns again once you reconciled. But if you improve yourself for "you", then those changes should last regardless of who you are with.
All of this is very hard and it is expected to hurt for a some time..but you can survive and you can be happy again. If you move forward and if she has any sense at all, she'll go find you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
