Read it like an outsider looking in... try be objective about it. If you can't do that, pick someone else's thread to read through. You will see their mistakes and wonder WTF are they thinking.... make notes from those thread. Don't think about your sitch while reading theirs.
Originally Posted By: Quart9
In a way it feels like I also need some sort of communication with her to really decide?
The only REAL communication you need here is with yourself. This is not about HER right now... it's about YOU. Get that into your head. Talking to her will only confuse you and make you look more pitiful in her eyes because you don't even know what you want.
I can imagine that whatever will come out of your mouth right now if you talk to her will be weak, indecisive and pleading. This will turn her off even further. e.g. "W, are you sure that this is what you want? I mean, we've spent so much time together. I've made mistakes and I want to show you how much I have changed. Please don't do this. We can work it out. Let's try MC because you owe me at least that much. You hurt me when you ... blah blah blah blah"
Can you see how talking to her at this point would flush you straight down the toilet?
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
