Don't pick on KS chick she is giving you good advice. You just don't want to listen. You need to work on you! Read any of the other siches and the same advice is given. She has not singled you out!
You can only control you. If you don't want to work on your marriage, OK, but that doesn't change the fact that you need to work on you!
I think you are confusing support with agreement. They aren't always the same thing.
I can tell you this. When I examined why I was wrapped up in a divorce and analyzed why my wife would rather spend time with her friends than with me, it was pretty evident. My actions were causing a lot of those problems.
From your posts and the overly apparent tone you care towards your wife, it's evident to me that you aren't the easist guy to deal with. I'm sure you don't say things in a way that makes someone want to respond in a positive manner. I know, because I was also that guy (and still struggle with it to this day).
Those are the things you are being asked to take a long hard look at. Bottom line is that you married your wife because you loved her, not because she always made perfect decisions, or similar interests, or because she kept a clean house. You need to figure out what you have done to cause the collapse of this marriage, because that is the only thing you have any control over.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
A marriage does take two but you married for better or for worse
you shared a hobby that continues funny was there some sort of promise thing in there that said she would stop the hobby when you did?
KS Chick and I both have been married and are success stories we saved ourselves if not our marriage we are better people than we were at the beginning of the journey
you aren't looking at your own part you seem eager to blame someone else for stealing those years and time that you put into it (like your WIFE is some sort of stock certificate or something...you invested so much and expect so much in return)
to steal a line from a movie: nut up or shut up
you either have the balls to look at your own part of you don't
Wow! Using the free time for charity and to make a difference in the world. You're amazing.....
Hang in there, the *universe* as I like to call it will help you get through this. Look for the signs and breathe. I had a 20 year marriage and I refuse to believe I won't find love again. It's my destiny....
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
