Thanks Robx, I couldn't agree more with everything that you said. I'm sorry if my question came off as naive or wishful thinking or something else but I was just trying to discern if there has been a pattern with WAWs after they walk away just like there is a pattern before they walk away.
I'm not sure but was your post what people commonly refer to as being hit by a 2x4 on this site? Is so, then thank you. I am working on me and trying to detach and let her go to do what she wants to do and I am loving when I am with her and tell her how proud I am of her accomplishments through this tough time. I know that everyone's sitch is different but like I said I was just looking for any kind of common patterns in a WAW.
Thanks again,
Ken
yes it was a 2x4 but also some education for you, no worries, we all have to learn at our own pace, we could force feed you tons of material but when you're ready to learn and grasp the concepts, you will have your own "AH HA" moment.
As far as telling her how proud you are of her accomplishments, WHY? What does this do? I don't think it's necessary, it's definitely not natural.
You don't have to reward her for wanting to divorce you and by saying these things to your wife, that's what it sounds like, like ass kissing and supplicating her.
You can be loving even if you're remote by respecting her decisions, if this is what she wants, you can still love her even if you don't agree with her wanting a divorce. In the end it's just paper and legalities, would that really stop you from loving her? Probably not.
When you talk to her, talk to her like you would talk to a friend, do you go up to your body and tell him how proud you are of his accomplishments? Probably not and he would probably feel a little weird if you came up to him and did that. I'm not saying that you're romantically involved with your buddy but seriously, talking like this to her isn't going to make run back into your arms.
Stop pursuing her, give her some space, allow her to pursue you because currently you're chasing her and she's running away - do the opposite, get involved in your own thing and be involved in you and stop trying to talk and persuade her and compliment her, take a break, for your own sanity.
