The codependency one here seems to ring a chord with this thread.
I think for the sake of your children you really need to shut this guy out. You made a commitment to NOT hear from him on your birthday, but he ended up tricking you into a phone tag game where you called HIM THREE TIMES desperate to communicate... even though you made a commitment to NOT talk at all... YOu called HIM.. desperate to talk...
Well, i think this is a big red light now... I am getting worried here...
I am done for the night... Pup, we need to keep an eye on this thread, this is becoming serious.. and there are children involved here...