The fact that you actually noticed that she was "unphased" by the pastor's speech and some of the other little details in your post shows how you are still "expecting" her to change.
Wrong stuck/bond.
The fact that I was wondering if it would have any effect on her and saw that it didn't does not mean I was expecting it to have an effect on her. Why would I expect anything anymore with regard to change from her? She has given me no reason in the world to expect a change anymore.
I am amazed that she can be so unphased. But it is not me expecting a change. It is just utter amazement. The fact of the matter is that I would have been stunned if it would have had an effect on her.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
