I am wondering if there are signs from my W that it will never work again. That We will never get back together. We have been separated for a week now, divorce is on the tip of her tongue.
A bit of my sitch, My W27 and me 29 have been married for 7 years. Got married young had our first child D7 right away. She found OM about three months ago. W moved out last week and continues to see OM. W has told me that she wants a divorce but I some how talked her out of it. She says that she wants to be happy and she cant do that with me. She tells my D that mommy is happier without me and that I am happier with out her(pffft). She says she isn't "In love with me any more"
I have been LRT, with marginal success. Mainly failures on my part for not biting my tongue. She came over last night and I told her that I am looking for a new job and I found one in Colorado Springs. I could tell by the look on her face she was upset. She said that she had no desire to go to colorado springs, that her life is here and that she wants to continue living up here. Which I find a bit weird because her entire family is down there. I know she didn't have a great childhood and maybe she just hates it down there. I'm thinking it has more to do with the OM and what she is developing with him.
She has left the kids with me and I am logging the time they spend with me. It seems though that she has no desire to spend a quality amount of time with them. I have stopped talking about the R and the M but I really want to do an intensive with Michelle but have no idea how to get my wife to do it as she is totally against going to a MC. But I am(woohoo!) I really want this to work out but my patience isn't very long right now. I keep praying that God opens her heart and that she will see what she is doing not just to me but to our kids. She has it in her mind that the kids are going to be okay but I have a hard time seeing things this way. I know I can't tell the future but My daughter wants us to be together but my W doesn't. Should I be giving up? Should I just say F it and move on? Am I kidding myself thinking that she will come back?
I seem to be rambling. What I really want to know is if there are signs that my cause is hopeless? I don't want to give up I don't want a divorce. I want us to be us. I want to have a whole family and have my D and S see both of us happy together.
Any advice would be awesome. Thanks
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