I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[GH31]

Good morning to you Quart9,

I just allowed my emotions to take over too much the other day. I will chaulk it up as a screw up and move forward.

We all have screwed up here.

Putting it down to experience and moving forward is by far the best thing.

I had no idea that the 6 month time frame didn't begin until after the affair had been exposed. I will look for info on Dr. Willard Harley.

It's superb material.

So I'm not sharing this because I plan to do exactly what IC says. I just hoped one of you guys might give me feedback on the IC's feedback.

Quart9, I'll ask you this again.

How much experience has your IC had in saving marriages, or dealing effectively with a cheating, adulterous spouse who's left?

I've no doubt she cares about your welfare but Puppy, Coach, Gnosis, RobX and Gucci Loafer have all walked the path you are about to walk and can speak to you from personal experience. They've also handled their situations superbly.

I'm torn because in a way I think I am still open to receonciliation one day, but I know I need to protect myself and my future.

It's natural to be torn and you absolutely need to protect yourself.

GH31 - you told me the other day that this would be one of the toughest things in my life I would ever have to face and you weren't kidding.

Mate, I wish it was different.

But it is what it is. It's up there with losing a child in terms of the pain you experience. I had no idea that the human body could experience that much pain without having sustained a physical injury.

Know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel but it will be quite some time before you glimpse it.

Stay strong.

GH31