Holy Crap! Didn't expect THIS!

[Dom R]

Hi Agen.. I mean "Trixi"

Had a feeling I should check up on you again.. very glad I did

I'm very happy(in a way. sorry about the tough stuff) that you have this opportunity.

Make no mistake: this is only an opportunity, not healing.
It only becomes healing, if you make the most of this opportunity.

Here's my opinion of it:
You are worried about "what if he leaves again when he doesnt 'need' you".
I think you wont have to worry about it, if you do the right things now.
Be a firm, upstanding woman of integrity and no nonsense. Accept no excuses. Do basically exactly what you've been doing recently: the "Well, Fred has to go!" attitude that you had

You have a short time, to get things in the right direction. a VERY short time. I would guestimate less than a week.
And I mean EVERYTHING, between you and your husband.
Living arangements, commitments, priorities. EVERYTHING.
Do not wait for retrouvaille, fix things now, as best you can.
If you wanna go to that also, fine, but dont wait to fix things until then.


After a week, the shock will wear off a bit, and he will probably be back in evaluation mode, and he will take stock of where things are, for the first time.
And if he likes it, he'll keep going for a while. and then in a month or so, he'll take stock again.
If he decides then, that he's still reasonably happy with how things are... then I think you will have a truely committed man at long last.

So... dont hold back. Now is not the time for "building up to something". No more babysteps. This is it, do or die. Go for it!
You need to tell HIM that too, flat out. Now or never.
If he wont step up now, he never will.

Did you notice how when you finally put your foot down, and said "jump", he said "how high"? That's what you've been missing! Go with it!!!


PS: optional step, for extra credit:
Shake his world.. forget about being a booty call for him, hanging around when he feels like it.. tell him to get his butt over and make you happy. It's all about YOU tonight