1) Can we agree to sit every Wednesday and discuss the upcoming schedule re: the kids. I will reaffirm that our discussion should be centered around the kids and not us.
How about implementing a calender.....just for you , but post it somewhere that it is accessible to all...????
Ask your kids to utilize it, and see what happens...
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
2) Can we agree that if any of the kids mention something to us about one of us that we will share the information with each other.
Bad idea.....
An MLCer is like a Cat...when they are done playing, the claws come out and they WILL find a way out if the situation....
Like your eyes?
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
3) Can we agree not to suggest that either of us are going thru our own "issues".
Can YOU quit bringing it up ?
When you feel like mentioning that she is going "through" something.....go find an electrical outlet and stick a butter knife in it....
Less fireworks that way...
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
4) Can we agree to keep things as normal as possible for the kids. For example do not bring up D?
Define normal first....not to me, not to her, to YOU...
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
In short, what I am trying to do is to make sure that both of us follow the same set of rules regarding the kids. Although I do not want to mention the D I do want to know if she is amendable to giving my the kids half the time. Thoughts on this?
Your rules and hers are going to vary a lot.....
Your changes in your interest of what is going on in the home, are going to be veiwed as controlling....
Do YOUR thing....and stick to it.
Not for her OR the kids, just because it is who YOU want to be now....
