You probably are a bit. The truth is...you are new to it. So you can't be found at fault. In time you learn to act with each of them in a way they appreciate. The older son...he is developing into a man...that is his journey. So just like you or I, he needs that space to become the man he is to become. On dinner....how is this for a suggestion. Your two oldest are old enough to make dinner. So why not let them pick the menu and make one meal a night on their own? You just supply some supervision, encouragement, and the groceries. You can even offer to help...but they have to direct you. Sounds fun to me.
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Lost - it has been almost 6 months and all i keep hearing is how we are getting D. I feel like I need to try something different but I just do not know what I could do. She on the other hand has been pretty darn cosistent about the D going thru. I only have a few months left, assuming that she sticks with her Sept timeline. With the relationship with OM in full swing I kind of feel like I am fighting a loosing battle.
Stop focusing on September....it is unhealthy. This all takes time....a lot of time. For almost two years I heard how awful I was and how my wife couldn't stand being here....for two years. I mean down right awful stuff and actions.....so what! I let it roll off as much as possible....and I am were I am today, because I rose above. I accepted that it will take time and as long as I did all the right things....I would be better for it. Do you know that in China students don't fret about getting an "A"...the fret about doing the right thing everyday knowing that by doing the right thing everyday they will get an "A". Realize the difference is thinking that way is so slight....but a lot more successful.
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Finally, do I even try and set some goals for the R. I mean I feel like the only thing I am doing is looking at myself and leaving her alone.
Are you feeling better about yourself? Are you making positive changes in how you do things? Are you doing the right things? Think like the student that knows doing the right things will get an "A"....so there is no need for the goals. Unless of course you are planning on running the marathon...then you had better start training pretty quick.
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trust me I won't
I believe that....you are getting what it takes. There are still going to be some bumps, but you are getting it. Soon you will be here with Jack, Mach, Bworl, OP, HB, and others....see I believe that doing the right things WILL give the desired results.
