flowmom | shifting from devastated to rebuilding

[flowmom]

email to H in response to him wanting to reduce my access to the line of credit, or split it up between us:

Hi Flowdad,

I agree with using XXXX of the line of credit to pay off part of my credit card. I also agree to not use the line of credit without your prior agreement.

The line of credit is secured against the equity in our home.

I am hesitant about giving up my access to a low interest rate line of credit and I would want financial advice before doing that. If it's important to you to change the line of credit access, within what time frame do you need an answer from me after I seek financial advice? This is something that I'd prefer to do in the medium term rather than the short term. In the short term I want to focus on moving forward with my career and life, helping S6 with his issues, and helping both children to cope with the emotional impact of this transition.

Flowmom

UGH. I had trouble writing that without bringing up D or saying: how am I going to pay for a lawyer when I am a SAHM??? Right now H is living in a dreamworld thinking that we'll do mediation without a L, but I'm starting to think that would be really, really stupid of me. Given my emotional state, I think I need someone in my corner. I don't know...I also don't want to spend lots of cash that we don't have on lawyers...torn.