I completely agree. He is 16 and you are not the man that he has known all of his life. Just keep going and doing, he will learn to appreciate it.
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By discussing her "journey"...you are implying something is wrong with her. Until she accepts that something might be wrong...there is nothing wrong.
I want to repeat this. There is NOTHING WRONG with your W. She IS NOT on a journey.
Like it or not, that did not go over well at all...
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I also said that I will be her friend and understood that she has difficulty with this right now. She agreed that she has difficulty with me being her friend.
Be careful with this one. Her definition of friend and yours can vary greatly.
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2) Can we agree that if any of the kids mention something to us about one of us that we will share the information with each other.
Not such a good idea. If she wants to share, then she will, but to be honest, to betray your children's confidence in you like that is not the best thing.
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3) Can we agree not to suggest that either of us are going thru our own "issues".
Dang...I think Eric just got tossed under a bus. I can see you wife's response "Our issues...You are the one with issues {door slam}{splat sound as eric hits pavement}". Your issues are your issues Eric. No need to share them with her or the children. Work on yourself...for yourself.
God what a visual...
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4) Can we agree to keep things as normal as possible for the kids. For example do not bring up D?
While it is possible to do this, I think you want this more to allieviate your own fear when you hear the D word.
Try to find another way to remove that fear...
Originally Posted By: Lostforwords
don't move out! Read that again...Don't move out. If she wants to move out...than let her. Otherwise...don't move out.
While living with a MLCer has many downfalls, I do agree with this...
If she needs to move, let her move...
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Lost - it has been almost 6 months and all i keep hearing is how we are getting D.
I heard these words from 1998 to 2000. Then again from 2007 to mid 2009. I am still legally M.
Guess what, words are just words sometimes, until someone puts an action to them...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
