how do i keep my hope alive?

[trytryagain]

[quote=Onthemountaintop]
[quote=talia]

p.124
"It's imperative that you begin doing the last-resort technique immediately if:

• Your spouse has said to you in no uncertain terms that s/he wants to get a divorce and it appears as if s/he really means it. It wasn't just said in the heat of battle.
• You and your spouse are separated physically.
• You and your spouse still live together but have very little to do with each other. You may be sleeping in separate rooms, have virtually no communication, and little or no sexual contact.
• Your spouse has filed for divorce."

Your sitch fits both of the first two criteria.

well...my H said he wanted to separate. he's NEVER used the D word and from the day he moved out, he's said that now he's not even sure if separation was the answer. so. we do not live together anymore. but he's never said the word divorce to me, not even when he talked about separating.