HAPPY BIRTHDAY MB28!!!! Enjoy your special day with your kids!
Pup and Allen,
I am also heeding your advice to mb28 in regards to the no contact and being addicted to talking to husband. Mb28, it is VERY hard to not answer when you see your husband call...I know first hand and failed at it this morning SEVERAL times. But you know what I tell myself as the phone is ringing RIGHT NOW with him calling...I WILL NOT FEEL ANY BETTER AFTER TALKING TO HIM.
Keep telling yourself and reminding yourself how you REALLY feel after talking on the phone with your husband. I think that with me I sometimes answer hoping that we will have some conversation that will turn things around. However, the list that Puppy wrote out is correct...those are the ONLY types of conversations that can happend when a spouse is in a unrepentant affair AND denying it (this is my husband all the way). Another analogy, I HATE working out but I always feel soooo good after a workout that I make myself do it becuase I like the feeling that I get after I have pushed myself to do it. So I am making myself not answer my husband's phone call because I hate the way that I feel after I talk to him.
Good luck and have plenty of fun today!!!
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo