It did hurt my feelings that my neice still was 'friendly' with my W, especially since now she is trying to take the kids away from me. I communicated this to my neice.
I want my W to know that I still care, regardless of her projection that I didn't and don't!
Maybe what your W is saying, (in a sarcastic way) is that whatever you may feel for her, that your actions, which could be construed as not wanting niece to be in contact with her, are not loving actions. If you 'love' her, how could you try to drive a wedge between her and people important to her?
I agree. I feel like she's doing just that. My niece isn't important to her though, and hasn't been for years! There are so many emotions on both sides in a deal like this...W doesn't want to feel like the 'bad guy' at all for doing what she's done, and she'll reach out to anyone to justify her feelings, even if it's to someone who mattered little to her before. Anyway, my feelings were hurt for the reasons I posted earlier to Coach. My W put her foot down and got her parents to stop communicating with me after she filed for divorce. Before that, they communicated with me regularly during the separation. Things like this happen in situations such as these. It's not good, but they do. But she should know that I still care for her even though my feelings were hurt by their communication (niece and hers).
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
